Anger is a very misunderstood emotion in contemporary Western Culture. It is often demonized because it is associated with aggressive behavior such as violence, manipulation, intimidation, and other hurtful behaviors. We draw the understandable but misguided conclusion that anger should be avoided, as much as possible. We spend a great degree of time and energy trying to banish anger away, which ironically results in an eventual “blow up” creating the aggressive behaviors that are rightfully condemned. 

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Anger is a tricky emotion, but should nonetheless be welcomed as part of our experience. It serves as a physiological reaction which indicates that a social/emotional/physical/financial/spiritual need is threatened. At its core, anger calls our attention to a problem or perceived threat which we might otherwise not be aware of, and gives us the energy and motivation to do something about it. This burst of energy can be used on mostly destructive behaviors such as the ones mentioned above, or it can be the catalyst for constructive change. Examples of such change can include positive social/political change, motivation and courage to “clear the air” in conflict (it is possible to be both angry at and respectful toward someone), energy to stand up to a bully or mistreatment, fuel to improve one’s self or work toward a specific goal.    

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